Seven Habits to foster Good Relations with Everyone

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Human beings are social creatures. In our day to day activities we have to interact with many people. Most of the tasks that we perform or we ask others to perform depend upon the cooperation we receive from others. Evidently, our success depends on our relationship with others. Besides, good relations contribute to our happiness. First, let us understand what is good relationship? This means a number of things which are:

i) Faith in others. We can have good relations with someone only if they feel that we trust them and they can rely on us.

ii) Respect for others; we need to give consideration for ideas and opinion of people we deal with. Mutual respect is the basis of working together cordially. In this situation work is done with collective wisdom and creativity.

iii) Living up to your words; it means that whenever you have offered any kind of help to someone, you must give it. At the same time you need to be mindful of what to say and use your language and speech with discretion.

iv) Diversity should be welcomed. Each individual is different. Their opinions are different, being from different backgrounds. Good relationship will require you to accept the diversity.

v) Communicate with great care. We need to communicate with people around us all the time. If we are too secretive, others will observe it even inadvertently. This will act as a road block in good relationship. Therefore we must be open in our communication. You need not hesitate to say that certain information you will not like to reveal, but politely.

Having talked about the definition of good relationship, I would, now, like to share my thoughts about what habits we need to inculcate for developing good and cordial relations. These are:

Habit 1. Develop your networking skills. You should never be shy to reach out to people whom you want to connect and build relations. This will require high standard soft skills, clear and honest communication, ability to collaborate and resolve conflicts whenever these takes place. Difference of opinion even among close compatriots is not uncommon. It should be your habit to respect the difference of opinion. If you are not convinced you can always say politely that ‘we agree to disagree’.

Habit 2. Understand your relationship objectives. In the busy life today, we do not have time to build relations with people for the fun of it. Therefore, it’s necessary to clearly understand the relationship needs of both you and the other person. What you expect from them and what they might expect from you in return need to be contemplated. By no means can you be considered as selfish. In any case if you are not careful of what you want. How you can take care of others, if you cannot take care of yourself.

Habit 3. Spare sometime for building relationship with people who are important to you. It’s not enough to talk sweetly whenever you happen to meet someone. Conscious deliberate efforts are required to build good relations with anyone. Your keenness should be supported by your conduct and actions. Small courtesies like complimenting someone’s achievement, saying ‘thank you’ if something is done for you and sending greeting on New Year, birthday or anniversary greeting etc. go a long way to strengthen cordiality.

Habit 4. Develop a positive attitude. Incidents in your life might have left some scars of suffering even without your fault, But this should not be a reason for a negative attitude. In fact, your attitude is you; it should be visible on your face, speech and the body language. Your negative feelings inside your mind will never allow a visible positivity. Make it a habit to spend some time to develop your emotional intelligence. This will improve yourself awareness and ability to handle difficult people or difficult situations with a positive attitude. You will earn respect from others and so good relations will follow.

Habit 5. Listen twice as much as you speak. Each of us has two ears but only one mouth to speak. So, speak less and listen more. Everyone wants to be heard and to be understood. If you fulfill both these needs, they will only be too happy to be in your company. When you speak you don’t add anything to your knowledge, however, when you listen actively you are likely to enhance your knowledge. Further, you will speak with discretion and take care of speech elements like pace, pitch, emphasis on the keyword and the tone. Thus, what you speak will be more effective and appreciated by the listener. You will find the habit of listening more and speaking less very helpful in building good relations.

Habit 6. Recognize and appreciate others whenever the occasion arises. If anyone has rendered any help to you, he/she need to be thanked and appreciated. It should be your habit to compliment others genuinely. It should not appear that you are just completing a formality. The receiver of the compliment/appreciation will acutely observe your action. She must feel that the appreciation has come from your heart.

Habit 7. You must know your boundaries and exercise discretion. There is no point in allowing anyone to intrude in your private space. Nor, you should do it yourself. Everybody needs privacy. Everyone is engaged in various activities. You have to find available time for interaction with others. In modern times, due to very competitive environment, there is no scope for any gossips or stretching any discussion beyond limits.

Since habits die very hard, it is equally difficult to inculcate new habits. Identify your development needs in respect of above habits and then start working on these. You need to be patient with yourself and consistent in your approach.

Thanks for Reading.

 

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